Marilyn Monroe...Appreciating change and the person you are.

I came across two quotes from Marilyn Monroe this past week, and I fell in love with them.  It was her birthday last week as well, so why not pay a little tribute to her?

"I`m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe

Are you truly ok with who you are, flaws and all?  No one is perfect and you cannot expect that unrealistic expectation from anyone else in your life and most importantly not from yourself.  We all have bad days, baggage, dark sides and things that make us different.  But these are part of our character and our humanistic being.  Part of loving your partner, friend, family member, or coworkers is being able to accept them for their good AND bad times.  This means that you are truly seeing them for who they are and not judging them but a blip in their radar.  Loving someone for who they are will not only show that person you truly care for them, but that same love and devotion will come back to you!  I have many flaws and insecurities just like every human being on this planet does, but I also know I am a good person, a great friend, and a devoted partner.  So don't get down on yourself or settle for someone who can't see you fully through your ups and downs.

This is my favorite of the two quotes, because there is so much to it.  First of all everything DOES happen for a reason.  We will get more into that as time goes on, but make no mistake, everything that occurs in your life is a manifestation of your thoughts and actions.  That means the good and the bad.  People change, you change, it's part of life.  You can choose to accept that change and move forward or to step away from it and move in a separate direction.  You will lose friends and lovers in your life because of change.  Some people come into your life for a short time some stay for life, you need to accept both circumstances and take away the lesson and blessing that their presence was in your life.  Things will also go wrong in your life, but it is how you react to them that will make all the difference.  Look at the lesson you learned from it or what you were introduced to because of it.  Again this is something we will go into more detail in another post someday, but know that things may seem to go "wrong" when in fact they are happening because they meant to and needed to.  And finally my favorite part of the quote is the last line.  You may have been in an amazing relationship, had a best friend, lost money or your car broke down, got fired from a job, whatever the circumstance may be.  But what you need to do is look back at those events in the past or if they are happening now and see what better thing they led to.  Maybe you thought your ex was amazing but look at the new people that have came into your life that are showing you a new kind of love or personality, or showing you what you truly need in your next relationship.  Maybe you lost a so called "best friend" for whatever reason, and now you have an even better stronger friendship or are more aware of what you want in a friendship.  Those things are all better situations that have fallen into place because the last one didn't.  Life is all about learning lessons and realizing they are all around us!