If you hold onto your history...

This lesson is another from Oprah's LifeClass show as well as from my favorite LifeClass teacher, Bishop T.D. Jakes.   There have been a few blog entries on here about holding on to the past and that you are the person who can re-write your story and make a new ending.  It is a lesson that bares repeating many times because it is something that many of us get caught up in.


History is something that is part of our life but it is NOT something that dictates how the rest of our lives will be.  We all have gone through some not so good times and experiences.  And yes they help us grow and teach us lesson, but they do not hold us back from being who we are meant to be.  They only do that if you let them.  When you hold on to things in the past and define yourself by those things you are doing so by putting your destiny in life at risk from ever happening.  This is one of those things in life that you need to weigh the cost and outcome of your choice.  Is it worth being unhappy and blocking yourself from what your life is meant to be because you are holding on to the pain and fear of something that happened in the past?  Chances are you answered that with a no, which is true.  The past is something that happened and no matter how hard you want to you cannot change it.  So do not procrastinate your own happiness!

Accept that what happened has happened.  Accept that someone hurt you.  Accept that you made a bad decision.  But don't accept that those things define who you are and that you will never move on from it.  Accepting does not mean you are saying what happened was alright, it is about saying that you acknowledge that it happened but are not going to be consumed by it.  Don't let your history define your life at the expense of your destiny, instead choose to be happy and live YOUR life!

Joy Rising Fridays

I have stated many times my love for Oprah's Lifeclass show.  I LOVE IT.  And I also miss it greatly being on as often as it was originally.  But one of my favorite parts of it was her weekly friday show which was "Joy Rising" in which she would share moments from her shows in which they did things to make people happy.  The lesson was that as you watched them you felt just as happy for the person even though the actual even was not happening to you.  The power of happiness and positivity radiates from people and is infectious.

So going with this concept I will be posting a video of something, could be from Oprah's show, could be something random I found online, that will help the joy rise in you.  They will be posted on our Facebook page so be sure to "LIKE" it so that you will get the updates.  And while you watch the videos notice how you smile, cry, and laugh along with the videos.  Happiness spreads and seeing other people happy makes you happy.  So take that as a lesson and observe all the happiness that is around you.

And please share our Facebook page and the videos with your friends and family to spread the joy!

Let Go to Live

Fear and preconceived notions about things that happen in life can be something that holds you back.  When we fear something we tend to do whatever we can to avoid it and keep ourselves "safe" from it.  We have discussed the topic of "Fear" before on this blog and how it really does you no good to avoid it.  Today we dive into that a little deeper...

When we fear stuff in our life we tend to find ways to avoid coming face to face with it.  We avoid talking to certain people or putting ourselves in certain situations that we know will cause that fear to activate inside of us.  While we do this thinking that it is protecting us it is actually putting us in a theoretical cage blocking us from true happiness in life.  You actually are causing a stress in your life by having an internal battle trying to avoid and protect yourself from the things that you fear.  Think about it...when you avoid talking to someone or doing something do you really feel better?  Chances are you feel defeated, sad, or still focus on the fear and think about it making you feel bad anyways.  

The key to getting over a fear is to either face it and do it, or to just simply let it go.  Accept that it is something that naturally occurs in life, something that is going to happen, and something that has happened.  No matter what life is going to happen and those circumstances are going to cross your paths.  So instead of avoiding it and doing all you can to battle against life so that those thing do not happen, you just need to accept it.  Remember life is about living for now and being positive.  Feelings of stress, avoidance, and fear are not positive feelings...so why make yourself feel that way?

I am not saying that you won't having something that you will fear in life.  It is human nature and will happen.  But like every lesson on this blog, it is all how you deal with it.  Let go and Live YOUR Life!

Favorite Scars

Love is something that is in all of our lives.  We all go through relationships that are good and bad.  We have all been through breakups.  And when we are going through them it seems as if we will never be happy again, never get over the person, or ever be able to move on.  However, funny thing is that we do come out of it ok, and we do move on, and we do find new people to let into our lives.  Love, just like life, teaches us lessons and leaves us with scars that are there to remind us of those teachings.

When you start a relationship, as with anything in life, you have to just jump in and do it.  Take your heart out of the cage and off the shelf that you put it to keep it safe.  You can't move forward without taking the first step.

No one is perfect and no one makes perfect decisions.  Chances are you can even look back at some of your past relationships and laugh at how you thought that was what you wanted and needed. When in reality because of that breakup you learned what you do need and want in the future.  You learned a lesson.  Love is a beautiful thing and breakups are a part of life that we need to go through.  If you go through life being constantly guarded and scared of getting hurt then you will never experience what love can really offer.  Yes you may get emotional 'scars' but you will also get experience and can say that at least you tried it.  It is better to look back and say "I shouldn't have done that" then say "I wonder what that would have been like?"

Take a moment to look back at past relationships and be proud of the 'scars' that you carry.  Love will come again and will heal your broken heart...if you let it back in.


Check out Cher's latest album, "Closer To The Truth" to hear the great song, "Favorite Scars" which inspired this entry.